This is a short note just to mention a couple of things that I do to help and support the men around me. In the scheme of things, it’s not a lot, but I do it anyway. Maybe you could give them a try or think of your own ways to quietly support the only group that it is legal to discriminate against. Especially if you’re part of that group.
1) When driving, if I have the option to stop for someone who wants to cross, I’ll stop for a man but not for a woman. Why? Because whilst the ten guys driving behind me will stop for a woman, none of them will stop for a man. It’s a tiny thing but it’s still a thing.
2) If I ring my mobile phone company for an upgrade, I will hang up on a woman that answers and keep calling back until I get a man. Or if I go to buy something at an electronics store or anywhere where I know that the person dealing with me will get a commission for making a sale, I will seek out a salesman and ignore any saleswomen. He will get my business.
Why? Is it because I have issues with women?
No, but I know how hard he has to work and how little she has to work for the same pay (now there’s both irony and also the real “gap” in the workplace). I know how close he is do disciplinary action at her whim, false and malicious accusations being so easy to dispense if you’re female. I know that she is virtually impossible to fire no matter how incompetent she may be, because she’s female, whereas he is as expendable as toilet paper if he doesn’t perform.
In short, I think that broadly speaking, men have to work to be in a job and women just have to turn up.
3) If a man in a job is helpful and demonstrates his competence (for example, my webhost has excellent support guys), I write a quick email to the company to thank them for hiring such competent staff.
It’s gotta be done
So why do I do this? Am I a despicable misogynist who is hating on women I don’t even know?
Nope. I’m doing what I can to counter misandry. That phenomenon that hits hard, from all sides, grinding men and boys beneath it from the President and Prime Minister on down, and yet is still not even recognised by my spellchecker.
This task starts with what you do every day and the way you live your life. It all counts.
I’ve decided that I will always do what I can in my daily routine to support men. In doing so, I am supporting myself and following through with my beliefs.
This kind of activity and my choices will extend into the future. For example, when my son needs music lessons or private tuition, I will choose men to do these tasks.
You should note that women do this in great numbers all the time. Women do charity-runs exclusively for breast cancer (not all cancers, mind you, just female breast cancer); women donate money exclusively for women’s issues (even when those same issues affect men); they attend women-only gyms to be away from men and support every kind of women’s group you could imagine.
There is almost no end to what women will do for other women and yet, I can’t think of anything that men do for other men outside of the efforts of MRA’s.
Men are under attack in our society and anything whatsoever one can do to help out a fellow man, is definitely worth doing.
I have some of my own here that you can do, if that’s alright:
1. Give money or help out homeless men.
2. Give money or donate to war veterans (many of them end up homeless or commiting suicide.
3. Give your seat to a fellow man on the bus or train instead of giving it to a woman.
4. Give extra tip to male waiters when you’re out dining.
5. Make an attempt from now on to be more kind towards men. You never know if the men that you run into have an abusive girlfriend, are going through divorce and custody battles, are depressed, etc.
6. Spread the word about the MRM or anti-feminist movement. You can do this through word of mouth, but also by putting up posters on walls, etc.
You can also use YouTube, Twitter, etc. on the Internet to spread the word.
This will help men indirectly.
Some excellent ideas.
Your numbers 3, 4 and 5, I completely agree with. The waiter tip and bus seat in particular. Old men are welcome to my seat (how many other people will offer?), but women can take one of the 5 seats offered by other men.
The war veterans donation I would not do, because it’s not dedicated to men and I can imagine what kind of shenanigans goes on with the distribution of money to male and female veterans, when women do not serve in front line roles.
Thanks for this contribution, you have improved my own thinking on this.
There’ll be more and more articles like this in the near future. I like it.
There’s no doubt about it, women give hand over fist as a blur to all those things they see “pink” and it’s all well and good. If true equality is asked for then you got it, you change the tire, you take out the garbage every second time and so on.
Same deal with donations to men’s causes, no seat for you, you can hold the door open, we both pay for a meal on a date etc…
If you jump up and down about it fine, I’ll look for someone else if I’m in the mood for it. If not I’ll continue as a bloke who’s gone the way he wants, as in on my own.
P.S.
I am in love with this site so much I am seriously thinking of proposing to it the idea of marrying me.
Hello Dr F.
I had the pleasure of reading your latest article on A Voice for Men earlier today. It was excellent and I think you addressed something that most MRA’s think about a great deal; getting the message across succinctly and appropriately when it counts.
Truth be told, it was more than a little freaky because you covered something in your article that almost made it into this one: the four levels of knowing. My reference to this was going to be how at the moment, I need to be consciously focused on doing things to help the men I come into contact with and how I was looking forward to the day when I did it without thought.
I learned the four levels of knowing from a self-defence expert who was talking about a person’s development of competence in self-defence: unconscious incompetence, conscious incompetence, conscious competence, unconscious competence. As I said, freaky…
Thanks for your kind words regarding the site, much appreciated!
I totally understand this but are you not running the risk of being seen to do exactly what Feminists do? Like positive discrimination that discriminates against men? Surely there is a way to battle such without becoming it.
Men are the only group that it is legal to discriminate against. Self-preservation demands such cooperation between men.
The state supports women, women support women and men support women.
In contrast the state does not support men, women do not support men and men do not support men.
So, no need to worry. A personal choice to support my fellow man does not warrant comparison to a hate-crime like Feminism and I think that this is fairly obvious.
Hello at you Mr Mwm.
Yes, that really is freaky, quite freaky indeed.
On another note. If you would like a drawing or two from me then let me know. As you know when it comes to copyright it’s a non issue for any and every mra out there and this means you.
Email me and give me your thoughts sometime, ok. Ta.
I most certainly will.
Fine piece MWM
It’s amazing isn’t it when you actually stop and think about this as a man, and it has to be said, that we have all been conditioned so well by the system that we often negate our own needs.
It took some time to start to break away from and didn’t feel natural at first, such was the power of the conditioning. But certainly for a number of years now I’ve just observed quietly and it’s so obvious when you do this how rigged it’s been towards women and their every whim.
Another great article mwm! which I have been doing this with salesperson to help out some few fellow mate!!
on another note, have you thought about adding some link to be shared on social network (facebook, tweeter) by people liking your articles??
I do it from time to time on my facebook from Paul’s website.
Most of my friends are not very comfortable speaking about those subject face to face but each time I upload a video from Paul or an article I know they are listening/reading it and slowly I’m breaking the ice with them on this matter also good publicity and more people coming into your site.
just letting you know
and again thanks for the great article
Good idea. I am not into social networking personally but I think the widgets are a good idea for others to share.
I’ll work on this today. Thanks for the tip.
If I see a man who doesn’t have enough money to pay his bus fare, I’m always willing to spare a couple of bucks, though I’m more hesitant to help a woman in the same situation.
Ironically, how many times have you ever seen a woman so much as hold a door for anyone ever? Never. Even my own girlfriend wouldn’t hold the door for me, and when I pointed it out to her, she said “We don’t have to”
True!
You hardly ever see any female self sacrifice for men…it’s always the me, me, me mentality we are so used to seeing and experiencing.
When I was at university I worked a few jobs in hospitality and I realized men were more likely to treat me with respect, give me a tip and less likely to complain about the service. Women on the other hand treated me like dirt (or occasionally make sexually suggestive comments), never tip me and constantly complain about minor details for the purpose of getting some sort of compensation, they are the real pigs!
We’re living in a (western) world where men are conditioned to compete with each other. This has become more and more pronounced over the last few decades.
But, in the UK this has taken on a whole new dimension following Thatcher. Thatcher legitamized selfishness. (Before Thatcher, to call someone selfish was an insult. Following her, you were just tediously quoting an attribute.) She even expressed admiration for ruthless cut-throats like Murdoch and Pinochet.
How does this translate into everyday life? A ruthlessness between men.
And women LOVE ruthless men. Why? Because they can obtain material comforts for them. Even protect them if called upon. Thatcher was no feminist, but she was a woman. And in the respect, she manipulated men in exactly the asme way as feminists do. No difference.
And of course, as men have a powerful sex libido, they will do what it takes to get sex: compete and cut throats of other men.
That’s why we don’t bond gentlemen. Blame women. Or better still, blame oursleves.
I live abroad so I am in a position to compare the UK with other countries. In Germany, Ftance, Belgium, Switzerland you will a greater effort for men to help other men. These are less feminized countries than the UK.
And they never had Thatcher. Did Thatcher cause the modern feminization in our country, or was it the other way round? Hard to tell. Chicken and egg. I think these both evolved together.
But how to start to remedy it, I don’t know. Help a guy across the road, he’ll think you’re gay. Or if he actually apperciates it, he still might be and remain a staunch manhole.
I see problems, but it’s great we’re beginning to talk about it.
Interesting comparisons with abroad. I agree thatcher was a game-changer in more ways than one.
I think the key is to help men without them necessarily knowing about it. If he knows about it, he’ll fight you in some way or other due to pride or suspicion or whatever. We know this. It’s the way it is.
So what you do, is do it anyway, for the greater good.
Whichever man you might help in some small or big way, never has to know about it. It’s not about thanks or even recognition, it’s just about doing the right thing because you see a bigger picture that he probably doesn’t.
It has to be this way because, as far as I can determine, the men’s movement will always be about the few, not the many. It has to be about the few, because the many don’t exist.
I’ve got more to say about this in an upcoming article on WomenBall.
NYU is actually holding a debate on the 20th entitled “Are Men Finished?” http://www.slate.com/id/2303488/
I can’t think of anything more insulting. That pandering sycophant Dan Abrams will be on the ‘Yes It’s the End of Men’ side. It’s just pathetic
This sort of thing is so blatant, yet most men won’t even recognise this for the misandry it is.
Here are a couple of other ideas for debates:
“Are women finished? What next for women after the rise of sexbots and artificial wombs?”
“The End of Women? Is it inevitable now that women have made themselves so toxic with their adoption of Feminism, that men will soon wash their hands of them for good?”
And one more for luck:
“What’s the point of women? Can any man honestly say that he wants anything to do with the modern woman? Could any man stomach the entitled, toxic, selfish Feminists (who now make up the vast majority of Western women) for longer than the time it takes to have sex with them? Join the friendly debate!”
But let us always remember, “Feminism” is about equality…
Hello MWM, I just want to say that I am a woman and I support what you are doing. You are getting the message out that feminism is a bad thing and feminists have never supported “equal rights”, they only support the advancement of women. Please do not think that all women have been brainwashed by feminism. I have always hated feminism and have always been vocal about my opinions. It takes a great deal of courage to do what you’re doing, and I just want to say that I appreciate everything you’ve done and know that you have the support of a woman!!
Why not join facebook and then spread your work? more and more men will come to know about your good work.
Awesome article MWM! I love it! I have been doing the same thing at work as well.
And what u said about women at work is very true! It happened to my brother. He worked in a hardware store and did all the heavy lifting, while two females with the same job title were able to just sit at the counter all day and talk. yet he was the one that lost his job when times got tough! So I try and treat every man I encounter at work as though they are my brother, cuz i know they have a hard deal.
Really loved this article, and wanted to make a comment regarding item #2. When I have to take care of service providers on the phone, I have started asking to speak with a man. This really throws them for a loop.
I know that when getting everything from counseling to medical services to getting a personal trainer, etc. etc. it is common for women to seek out other women for services.
So when they ask my why I want to talk to a man, or why I don’t want to talk to a woman I say “Because I am the customer and that is what makes me comfortable.”
Like I said, it really throws them for a loop, but they do it, every time.
Please keep up the good work here. You’re doing a great public good.
That is awesome, I’m going to start doing that to! lol
I like that one Paul…I Like that very much indeed.
Think I’m going to adopt that policy myself from now on.
Great Idea!
Thanks, Paul.
I have steered clear of the blatant request for a man in those circumstances, but I’m at a loss as to why. As you point out. women seek out female service providers in many areas of life and have no hesitation in stating it boldly.
I will give it a try; it will at least save me time with the redials.
There’s an interesting reversal when seeing a doctor. We all know that a woman patient is entitled to a female doctor if she feels embarrassed to discuss her condition with a man. And this is while no such provision is made for men.
The issue facing us is this. Men are actually EMBARRASSED to ask to see a male doctor. They feel is it expected of them to behave indifferently towards the gender of their medical carer. In other words, women are encouraged to express how they feel, while men are expected to conceal it.
I am a male sociology student. I found this site after extreme frustration with the emphasis on feminism within my program. Now i use the information i gather here to counter all the feminist BS in class discussions.. Hopefully my input can have some impact on fellow students.
Good to have you on board!
Spread the word buddy…I hope you make some waves.
Just be careful not to piss off the people that mark ur papers! I made that mistake, it can be tricky
I just started blogging about MRAs, I watched your videos on YT and i think it is the greatest documentary i ever enjoyed.
Take a look at my blog, I want your permission I want to download you videos and burn it to DVD format share it at my college and work.
No need to ask permission – go ahead.
Keep up your work and I hope it goes well.
A relevant experience today in Frankfurt’s buzzing Leipziger Strasse. Just emerged from a shop after buying a few bits and bobs. Decided to put my big box of “Dash” washing powder into the one of the plastic shopping bags I brought with me outside the shop, so as not to hold up other people behind me inside the shop unnecessarily.
But outside, as I already had another full bag with me, I struggled to get the box of Dash into the bag. It was somewhat clumsy.
“Brauchen Sie Hilfe?” a passing bloke of about 40 offered. I really appreciated his offer of help, but I declined as I was almost there.
The first thought that struck me, of course, was this discussion. (I got the Dash into the sack all right within seconds and headed off home.)
I write something and embedded your videos.
http://mrafront.blogspot.com/2011/10/womans-gotta-know-her-limitations.html
LOLZ on the spell checker part, I noticed this without reading it anywhere first. MISANDRY, I have not noticed it in the spell checker of ANY of my software.
Great work……
In addition to that, it is my opinion what help men who are not accepting feminism. Help even men who married non feminist and feminine women. Help men who have sons. If they have daughters help only if they are letting their wives to rise their daughters up in a feminine way.
This is totally awesome Manwomanmyth. And the beauty is, I have come to the same place, independently. Over the course of blue pill detoxification and deprogramming, I have noticed a whole new appreciation for men emerging. I see them differently and it compels me to treat them differently- like kin. Well, I was already a rather humanist person, but it has just been reinforced and developed into something much greater. The men I come across in daily life, I pass them a warm smile. I admire them, especially the ones doing hard and dirty work, and I do whatever I can to collaborate with and assist them. And as for the females- f-u-c-k them. Palpable and smoldering contempt. And it’s not contrived, it’s just how I FEEL, Oprah. And Oprah, my feelings have merit, you said so.
One of my biggest favorites is thanking the cooks at restaurants. Those guys have got to be the hardest working most unappreciated group. And what sickens me is, even though “we’re all equal and females can do anything a man can do,” the cooks are always men, and the twit cashiers and floosy hostesses are always female. Where’s the affirmative action?! Where’s the lawsuits?!
Thank the cook, thank the chef.
Here are some big reasons why we all should care about men’s needs and hearts (not meaning that it is more important to defend men, since we are all of infinite value as human beings):
1. There is a root of rejection in every man’s heart. We are denied from love because we are supposed to be strong and too much love supposedly would make us weak or soft. 2. Male chauvinism hurts all men. There is huge fear in society about loosing your manhood so men are forbidden to express love or being taken care with love. Even fathers do not kiss their sons for this reason. This creates such a huge emptiness in their hearts that many men become gay just so they can express and receive love. 3. Many men -mostly latinos- have a broken nest because their father was a “bad guy”. Because of this reason many, many men, lack an image of another man who loves them and who is an example for them. These men grow up trying to figure out how to give and receive love and still be a man. 4. Men have a huge pride because men are supposed to be the strong ones, so it is harder for a man to ask for help and to receive help. Men who are out to the streets have the subconscious feeling of having to fight on their own.
All of these are reasons why we should be aware of men’s needs. However, I think the approach here should be to be aware that we ALL have needs and we ALL need love and attention, instead of trying to balance out the scale by adding up to one side. Those who keep fighting only show how much you have been hurt by this tough divided world.
If you really want to know what a man is, follow Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who accepts, respects, and loves each person of this world. Who is clear and radical and at the same time loving and caring. Who would never lie or hide and who would never brag about Himself, being GOD!. Who rebukes the sin, not the sinner. Who is the most attractive man on earth and expect nothing but your love.
Do you want to be a real man? Follow Jesus. Do you want a real man on your life? Receive Jesus in your heart.
Revelations 3:20
Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.