| Film Details | 47 - Intimacy - 47m 45s |
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| Age Rating | 18 (very strong footage/language including violence) |
| Synopsis | Exploration of male psychology and men’s relation to women, particularly as regards emotional support. Looks at pornography and the role of men in society. Examines how men are intentionally divided from children and each other. What are the consequences of society's demonisation of men? • Man’s inhumanity to man • Men refuse to defend themselves • Act like a man! • Is it gay for men to hold hands? • Are men more dependent on women than women are on men? • Men’s identity • Why won’t women leave men alone? • TV is a female-thing • What does it take to be a strong man? • The abuse industry, charities, government and the attack on intimacy |
| Interviewees | Stephen Fitzgerald, National Organiser of the Mankind Initiative Men’s Charity. Angry Harry, Psychologist and Men’s Rights activist, angryharry.com. Simon, Psychologist and Writer. Erin Pizzey, Author and Domestic Violence expert. Opened the world’s first domestic violence shelter in London and is a patron of the Mankind Initiative Men’s Charity. Author of the book “Prone to Violence”. Andrew, IT Engineer and footballer. Mary Alabaster, Head of Maternal Mental Health, Essex Primary Healthcare Trust. All interviews recorded in 2004 |
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I’m so looking forward to this!
Man, this website has opened my eyes so much, it almost brings me to tears. I will reduce the time i spend listening to mainstream media because its not about news anymore, its indoctrination.
Glad the site has been of benefit.
Great to see the latest part up; I love that quote “If you can give everything of yourself to a woman, you’re a pretty shallow person.”
Thanks and I agree about that paraphrased quote.
I have not come across your site before and I looked at the latest post. I note from it that you may have disagreed quite strongly with some of the parts of this film yet I surmise that you have taken the parts you agree with and discarded the rest. I wish more people (and particularly more men) would do the same.
Dammit! You’re making it really hard for me to determine which is your best video of this series, and this one is very damn good. Outstanding work. Well worth the wait.
Cheers. Feedback always appreciated.
Apart from the fact that women want to be controlling, and fear any lack of access or influence from them onto the men in their lives, another aspect I liked was when Simon and Andrew were talking about how you shouldn’t ever give 100% of yourself to a woman.
That’s very true. This is because for women Loyalty is a one-way street. Women aren’t really expected to be Loyal, even to their husbands. Sure, they take wedding vows, but current divorce laws practically shower them with rewards for disloyalty and disobedience. Why should she be Loyal any man?
Because she’s definitely not going to give 100% of herself to you, not unless she possesses a strong religious upbringing. How can anyone devote oneself fully to a person who isn’t expected to be responsible for herself let alone be loyal?
I told a friend of mine who asked me to be his Best Man at a wedding. I learned that his bride-to-be was not going to take his last name. I told him, flat out, “Cancel the wedding, and dump her.”
He thought I was joking. I was completely serious.
I said, “She has proved she isn’t loyal to you, but to herself first. A person like that is going to cause you grief.”
He didn’t take my advice.
Three years later, he’s now divorced, and paying alimony, and can only see his baby on weekends.
Erin Pizzey talked about how men may be fearful of women in relationships on some deep level, but women also seem to be fearful of men’s relationships with other men. Men gain strength from close camaraderie with other men and this is being stripped from men more and more each day.
Unfortunate man you speak of, but his is, of course, a very common situation. Your advice was correct and you showed yourself to be a great friend by taking the risk in telling him what you thought.
As I said in Divorce and the Toxic Woman:
“A great many women are greedy and grasping – heady with legal powers and having the malice to use them. Often, these women refuse to take a man’s name on marriage, but are happy to take his money on divorce.”
I stand by that and the proof is all around us.
Men’s friendships are very important, because we back our friends up. We watch each other’s back. A friend has a perspective that often is disassociated with whatever feelings we may have about a situation. My example where I told my friend Zach to cancel the wedding and dump her when he told me she wasn’t taking his surname was from a perspective of both experience and that I’m not clouded by emotions toward his prospective bride. I actually liked her up until that point.
Friends network, they share information, pool their resources, and are essential for moral support. Just as important as it is for women to have friends, men must have them too.
My friends tended to think I’m a bit too strict with women. I think that my advice was chalked up to a presumably stupid attitude that I had since the Army, when I realized how much power women have these days. After Zach’s divorce, that attitude dramatically changed. Now, they all talk to me about women.
Of all the many excellent videos on this site, this one takes the cake!
I’m one of those old-timer MRAs that’s been mumbling and grumbling for decades. Men are now slowly coming together, including many disenchanted and newly-awakened young men that are eager to “do something”. But they’re not sure what.
Anything they say that begins with ‘the government should …’ may be discarded.
Anyone who believes that Republicans, Democrats, Labour, Liberal, Conservative, Christian Democrat or Monster Raving Loony Party has the answer should also be discarded.
This video gets to the root of the problem – Male psychology.
When men start to understand how they’ve been “oppressed” (more powerfully than women ever were) by subtle conditioning, they may not “rebel” but they most surely will react – and it’s already underway.
The reaction will be seen in various ways.
First, the quicker ones will take steps to protect themselves from harm. Many more are engaging in Ghandi style passive resistance.
As awareness grows, we will not see a violent revolution. Instead we will see men reclaiming their greater natural independence that women don’t have access to. They will simply start walking away from situations that are not to their liking.
Feminism will not end with a bang. It will end with a whimper.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment.
I, along with many others I know, have wondered what the end of Feminism will look like. Whilst I think that you may well be right about a quiet revolution by men, rather than a dramatic one, my concern is that the reason for the change may not be identified and quarantined.
In other words, I think that it’s essential to explicitly call out Feminism and gynocentrism as the problems that led to disaster. I don’t want these things to be ‘let off the hook’ or evade overt scrutiny. I want the head of Feminism on a pike for all to see.
So long as that happens, perhaps the manner of the downfall is secondary. Whatever the cost, it will be more than worth it to rid ourselves of such a crippling ideology.
Have you read ‘The Manipulated Man’ book by Esther Vilar?
I saw you put a picture of that book on one of your videos….
such a great book, really opened my eyes to this whole ‘female matrix’.
I think it’s a must read for every man.
Yes, I read it. Good in most parts. Very funny. Not quite made it onto my recommended reading list. I might read it again and reconsider. Used the book cover in the film Misogyny 1
I’d like to emphasize and point out one of the many briliant parts from the book:
“Of all the qualities of man, his curiosity is certainly the most impressive. This curiosity
differs basically from that of woman.
A woman takes interest only in subjects that have an immediate personal usefulness
to her. For example, if she reads a political article in the newspaper, it is highly likely
that she wants to cast a spell on some political-science student, not that she cares
about the fate of the Chinese, Israelis, or South Africans. If she looks up the names
of some Greek philosophers in the dictionary, it does not mean she has suddenly
taken an interest in Greek philosophy. It means she is trying to solve a crossword
puzzle. If she is studying the advertisements for a new car, she is not doing it with a
platonic interest in its technical features, but because she wants to own it.”
My whole life I have been astonished how uninterested women are in most topics I liked to discuss because of my interests.
Women (and I don’t mean 100%, but the vast majority..) are really mostly interested in superficial stuff or stuff that gives them an immediate advantage like an advatage to get something…
conversations with women were almost always mind-dulling and drove me crazy.
And I’m talking about women that go to university and study for BA.
I might have to check it out. Thanks for the recommend.
You should read it- it really changed my life (in a good way).
Her second book is also good:
‘The Polygamous Sex: A man’s right to the other woman’
but you need to read ‘the manipulated man’ first
cause it’s the basics to the ‘female matrix’.
Another great book is:
The great female Con by ANDEY RANDEAD
Great video as usual. The discussion about porn is so true and humorous.
Porn doesn’t lead to women. Women lead to porn. Porn serves as a substitute for real male-female interaction. Most men don’t watch porn and then attempt to fulfill those fantasies with real women. Those fantasies already existed and men found an outlet for them in porn.
Sorry to pick out such a small part of this video but I felt I needed to express my opinion on this issue, which is an issue I am quite interested in.
I was at an after party one time, what you might call a “speak-easy”, there were these women talking in a semi-circle, I was wearing a suit, looking dapper and confident, having just come from work at a nightclub as a bouncer, I was a small bit of a “VIP” in this after-hours club, no admission, free drinks, despite I always tried to pay, treated by the management and staff with the utmost respect, as I also treated them, the people that run these places like having a gentleman and also another pair of eyes in the crowd, at any rate, among this small group of women chatting and a few vaginized males, there was one chick blasting away with all of this feminist nonsense, at one point, she said “men have fucked things up for long enough, it is time for women to have a turn running things” I laughed so hard and loud, it got the attention of the whole group. Another woman hit me up and said, “why do you think that’s funny?” I said “men built all that you women take for granted, every last thing you can set your eyes upon. Every building, every road and bridge, we mined the materials, braved the forests-what have you done as a woman that is so spectacular that men should stand in line behind you? Here’s what we men will do, just for you to have a turn; we will tear down every building, rip down all the line, pull up all the fresh water and sewer pipes, remove every last bit of civiliztion as it appears now, then, we will hand the reigns to women. We men will sit back and get fat, filing our nails and gripe about how useless women are. I gurantee, after 10,000 years of female rule, we will still be living in dung huts – MAYBE” – the chick that was flapping her gums went pale and her mouth hung open – “YOU CAN’T SAY THAT!!!!” she bellowed. I pointed my finger at her glibly and said “I just did”. This tight little black chick named Simone, whom I had only seen in passing before that, stood and went into this rythimic ass-dancing thing, hovering over my lap, it was fantastic, I wish I had video, it was so spontaneous and sex-charged coming from her, then after a few seconds of this, she stalked around me, dragging her nails across my chest, then from behind the sofa seat I was set in, she leaned over my shoulder deep, pressing her nails into my chest and sliding her hands under my beltline briefly then back out. I kind of growled in her ear, “don’t start any fires you can’t control now” – then she stalked off sexily. The mouths of my male friend and one girl whom was a bartender I was with from the nightclub had their mouths hanging open in awe as I glanced over at them. Some women still appreciate a real man it seems and a real man says what he means and he means what he says. The point of this is that I think their is a sort of apathy among men about “women taking over” because deep down, we want to see it happen – it is like when you have a small child you are trying to help and they become fruestrated and elevated and yank away saying “I CAN DO IT!!!”, so you let the child try it and fail, THEN and only then do they realize that you are ahead of them in the game so far and only then can they distinguish between their need to be independent and accepting the superior knowledge of someone that has more than just their own puerile concerns in mind, for their own benefit. I gurantee, within the first hour of “woman rule” there will be bloodshed as they tear at one another over whom is going to be “in charge” – all forms of government are oligarchies, even fascist dictatorships or so-called “communist” states, but the defeating stroke of women is their very co-dependance, that is what will tear this movement apart and already is. They will destory themselves, it is inevitable. Women all over the “west” have more coin, cars, property, specialized services, more ‘freedom’, more choices than ever before and not only is divorce up, but mariage is disappearing as an institution and all of these so-called “empowered women” are more miserable than ever because they CAN’T FIND OR KEEP A MAN. The irony is too sweet and as a man, I will watch all civilization fail and fall into ruin before I pander to any woman for any reason. I suggest other men pull up their boot-straps mentally and emotionally and also allow it to happen. Stand back and watch. Be a man, do your thing, have your life with women, but let them have their bottle. We men won’t be crying over the milk theyr spill, I assure you of that. Let them try to run before they learn to crawl. We will pick them up after, DESPITE their aggregiously horrific behaviour towards us, dust them off, patch them up and chalk it all up to experience. Then we men will rebuild society, not to spite them, but because we CAN.
“It is better to live as a lion for one day, than as a sheep for a hundred years.”
only a king can maintain a kingdom.