In a previous post on how Feminism has made many women toxic, I mentioned the issue of false allegations of sexual harassment and rape made by women. What I didn’t cover was the prevalence of such allegations nor the impact on a man’s life following such a serious crime.
False allegations by women are frequent, they are not some unusual occurrence.
False allegations of rape and personality disorder in women (featuring Angry Harry)
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It is imperative that men accused of rape should be granted anonymity along with the accuser. It is nonsensical to broadcast the name of the accused before any evidence or judgment and yet keep the accuser’s name a secret – even after she is proven a liar. This is an outrageous double-standard that I have never heard a woman denounce as wrong. As with all issues where men are profoundly discriminated against, women are strangely silent about it.
A man is guilty of rape if a woman says so (featuring Stephen Fitzgerald)
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False claims of abuse made by women – particularly false rape claims – tend to become clouded and unjustly diminished by the actuality of the crimes in question. In other words, the seriousness of real rape when it occurs is used to relegate the massive impact of false accusations to a side note. This is not right and only happens because the negative experiences of men at the hands of women are almost entirely ignored by mainstream media which has a determinedly female-focus. Women’s concerns are seen to be of importance, men’s are simply not.
The real issue with women making a false allegation of, let’s say, sexual harassment, is not so much the accusation itself, but rather the way such an accusation is treated.
For example, if a man and a woman are in an elevator and the woman subsequently makes a claim that she was groped by the man, what happens? The ugly truth of the matter is that the man is guilty until proven innocent. However, as there is no way to prove innocence, the man becomes permanently guilty by default.
The unending and colossal campaign of hatred directed against men by government, by charities and by media, using the shroud of Feminism, has been in full-effect for decades. The negative associations that have become attached to men in our minds are very, very strong indeed, and the simultaneous victimhood and virtue of women is equally as strong. These associations are particularly forceful in the areas of rape, sexual harassment, domestic violence and child sexual abuse.
What this means is that we as a society are instantly primed and ready to believe the very worst of men without a second thought. This is what makes it so easy for a woman to make false claims of abuse and be instantly believed regardless of the good character of the accused man.
We expect men to sexually abuse children; we believe that men are likely to rape women; we think we know that men commonly beat their wives.
So when a woman makes a claim of sexual harassment, he is toast. He can do nothing to disprove it and we wouldn’t believe him if he tried. He is at her mercy and there is little he can do about it. The bad smell of pervert is now his second-skin.
- Oh, he’s a high court judge? Fuck that, he’s a pervert.
- He has just returned from Oslo after picking up his Nobel peace prize? Fuck that, the lady said he groped her, and that’s that.
- He was on his way to do voluntary work with disabled orphans? Fuck that, he’s a pervert because she said he grabbed her arse.
Now, compare the allegation of sexual harassment, with an accusation of theft. What if the woman had accused the poor chap of stealing money from her handbag whilst in the elevator? Well there we have a different scenario. There is no instantaneous assumption of guilt. His protestations would be given a fair hearing and people would engage their brains before making a judgement as to likely guilt or innocence.
We would think: “why would he steal from her? He is not a criminal he’s a married man with respectable work. An upstanding citizen.” With a charge of theft made by a woman against a man, he is innocent until proved guilty. Why is there such a difference in our appraisal of him? What is it about the charge of sex assault against a man that bypasses all of our intellect and short-circuits our normal judgements? Why is he guilty of groping because she says so but unlikely to be guilty of theft because she says so?
The only difference between a good, well-respected man and a pervert, a rapist, a harasser or an abuser, is the lack of an accusation from a female. That is almost a definition of life for men in our Feminist society.
This is why false allegations of rape or other sex crimes and also domestic violence are such a travesty and cannot be compared to normal allegations. There needs to be very strong prohibitions against false allegations to counter the enormous mantle of automatic guilt for the man that accompanies such a complaint.
When women are exposed as liars in such cases, the argument runs that the punishment, if any, must fit the crime. After all, if one drops a banana skin on the pavement and a child slips on it, hits his head and dies, the crime is littering, not manslaughter.
So her crime might be making a false police statement or perhaps perjury if she has lied in court. These crimes have set punishments that are not very onerous. This, however, does not come close to answering for the huge damage to the man of such a claim. Loss of career, estrangement of family, loss of respect and good standing, butchered self-esteem and sometimes suicide.
I think that the intent of the women that make these false claims of such serious abuse needs to be the overriding factor in determining her punishment. Her intentional harm to the man raises her crime to another level. Her false claims are no accident and her intentions are premeditated and can only be described as evil. For these women, the punishment needs to fit the crime and this is simply not happening. Women have no disincentive whatsoever against making allegations that can at a stroke, ruin a man’s life utterly.
What is a suitable punishment for false allegations of rape?
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This is one of the aspects of women corrupted by Feminism that I was referring to when I described toxic women as akin to highly radioactive waste. Their behaviour not only destroys the particular man she may have in her sights, but it negatively affects many other men and women as well. Other men understandably become more wary of women, with negative outcomes for intimacy and normal relationships, and also women who genuinely claim abuse become less tenable.
The law needs to change to address the seriousness of false allegations made by toxic women, especially in custody cases, where she will happily falsely accuse her ex-husband of violence and sexual abuse of his own children to ensure custody for herself. She can do this because she knows that our legal system will not punish her because she is shielded by the dependence of her children.
I think this shield should be removed from all such women, so that if lies of this nature are made during a custody dispute than that should be the deciding factor in awarding custody.
False allegations of domestic violence and child sexual abuse
by women in divorce and child custody disputes
(featuring Michele Elliott and Erin Pizzey)
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This is such a worthwhile project to have done – thank you so much and more please!
This web site and your work truly is brilliant, these videos are ESSENTIAL!! I despair sometimes when I am always trying to explain such things, the worst people to deal with are OTHER MEN!! They are such cowards and would rather just “go along with it” in regards to the common perceptions.Men really need to start listening and doing something.
Well Done!!
Many thanks for this very useful educational resource.
Thank you for putting this up. Great article.
Thankyou for this it is very true. How someone can make a domestic violence claim to stop you seeing your child. The police help women though by arresting men and charging them. I want to know what happened to innocent until proven guilty?
What is so frustrating about this issue, is that if I determine that I don’t want to be alone with a woman, solely for the purpose of avoiding accusation, I am not taken seriously and my request becomes laughable. We live in a society that supports guilt by accusation and I cannot protect myself from it. I don’t want to be alone with a female doctor, or counsellor, or teacher, or any profesional female, yet to do this I have to give up that service and go without. I have no right to my own safety and protection.
While I recognize some truths in what is written, please be very careful not to make broad statements which are equally damaging as any false claims women can make are. I have been sexually harrassed rather brutally, took action with my company, they conducted an investigation (which I supported) proving my allegations are true but instead of fulfilling their “zero tolerance policy” committed to their shareholders and employees, instead they covered it up, offered to pay me off (which I wouldn’t accept) and kept this lunatic on staff. Just as not all allegations are true, not all are false. I hope this readership can understand that and I fully agree NO MAN or WOMAN should be victim to unfair treatment.
Well, Mary, in my experience, what YOU describe as “brutal sexual harassment” was more likely a harmless incident of poor judgement of his part. Either way, his employer weighed the alternatives and came to the conclusion that his contributions to the company were worth more than the settlement they offered a whining woman they no doubt regret hiring in the first place.
Sorry to hear that Mary. Sexual harasment and violence exist and are a reality, and there are no excuse for it. So again im sorry for what you have experienced.
But false claims can ruin the life of a innocent man. In the same way a real abuse damages the victim. We should not forget that person who is wrongly accused may end in prison (and get abused himself)he will lose friends, and perhaps the family will turn against him, he will lose his job and all the people he knew. He will probably end doing suicide. False rape claim are in some way socio-psykological rape of the man.
That’s why it is important to keep the accused and the accusator secret till the end of the investigations AND if the accuse are false, the accusator MOST get some serious form for punishment, not few months in prison or a ticket.
Ciao
PS
sorry for my spelling, but my native language is not English.
Mary said
[While I recognize some truths in what is written, please be very careful not to make broad statements which are equally damaging as any false claims women can make are.]
No Mary, what would be “equally damaging” would be YOU sitting in prison doing a 10 to 25 on a false charge telling your story from there.
here here. I AM a male VICTIM of sexual harassment. The allegation was “oh he brushed past me in the [crowded] office and then sat down next to me at a computer cublicle”. Hello !!!!!! As if all offices are 2acres of space where no one can “brush” past each other. Now I am the suffering male victim but the accuser doesn’t know I am gay and not interested in any way, shape or form of female gender.
so refreshing to read”NO MAN or WOMAN”, in relation to a victim, after all there are both male and female perpetrators too.
I am a male going through the rigors of trying to prove false allegations made against me are just that, but unlike other sectors of the law, there seems to be no onus of proof at all when it comes to allegations.
And some bureaucrats wonder why a large and disproportionate sector of our community loses faith in a lopsided legal system?
Women who falsely accuse men of rape/sexual abuse are absolutely vile and despicable human beings. It baffles me entirely that anyone would even consider doing something like that, but it happens an awful lot. It’s no more excusable than actual rapists committing actual rape, in my opinion.
Fantastic series, keep it up!
My best friend, his friend’s wife wrongly accused him of molesting his own daughters. She even made a full admission in court later on she made up the whole thing. This man was dragged through hell and it incurred him must mental suffering, drew out the procedings, and cost him far more in legal fees to defend against this atrocity and keep partial custody. (She basically wanted full custody out of spite and was after every red cent she could get).
This woman, and any feminist who would applaud her, deserves what they get in life.
Thankyou for this it is very true. How someone can make a domestic violence claim to stop you seeing your child. The police help women though by arresting men and charging them. I want to know what happened to innocent until proven guilty?
Bruce,its very much ‘guilty until proven innocent’, especially when the words ‘domestic abuse’ or any of its sister phrases are mentioned to the police. A woman involved in a custody dispute can rely on these terms in court as a way of blackening her ex’s character right from the off, regardless of the truth. I’ve seen it first hand.
Today a woman tried to provoke me into a position where she could charge me with harassment and have me arrested. It was on public transit. We had a rather under-the-belt exchange of insults over our disagreement about seating. She told me to stop and I did.
Only, she did not stop. She started on me indirectly, by conversing with her friends next to her. I was silent for a while, but then spoke up to defend myself. She immediately threatened that if I spoke once more, she would have security arrest me for harassment. I shut up but she continued to berate and insult me. Clearly, her intent was to provoke: when she spoke about me, she slowed her speech, annunciated more clearly and spoke louder.
I left to stand in the aisle. Upon leaving the car–which was at the same stop as mine — I told her where I was headed so she could take actions to keep away from me.
The initial dispute arose when she behaved inconsiderately, and she matched my level of power in the ensuing argument–until she made it clear she had more power than I have. She was a bully–she bullied me successfully.
Sorry to hear about this. I have also had a woman use her status of “female” when was being offensive and was entirely in the wrong, in order to leverage the protection of others around her and the powers-that-be. I suspect most men have had similar experiences of different severity. The numbers of women behaving in such a way are growing and making women, as a rule, increasingly toxic, as I have discussed.
The thing is, if you had been a different man, with less restraint, she might have found herself unconscious or otherwise injured, the same as a man might have found himself who behaved in the way she did . When women behave with this sort of aggression towards a man, she risks being treated like a man. I look at this in Domestic Violence – 1 in 4 Women.
Just remember, that she is not really the one who bullied you; she did not empower herself. She has been granted the ability to bully you. That’s the real problem.
A useful defence against this type of bullying is not to involve yourself in her dynamic but change it. Sart firing questions at her about her behaviour and do not tolerate subject changes or shouting. Keep your voice low and even. If she indulges in “verball machine gunning” (a favourite trick of aggressive and abusive females) do not try to match her speed or volume. Instead, pretend to go deaf. Read something. Get out your wallet and search through it, for example. Make a show of holding notes up to the light and very closely examinig them. Perhaps put your earphones in and pretend to concentrate on the music. Make a phone call. Anything but engage. This not only confuses them but it demonstrates to others that you are NOT the aggressor or the unreasonable one. When she stops, and she will eventually, start asking her the same questions again. If she restarts the “machine gunning,” go back to reading or whatever it was. In other words, treat her the same way you would treat an out of control child.
I once had a woman at a bus stop launch an uprovoked attack, calling me a pervert and a dickhead etc because I asked her if she where a certain bus stopped. (I know. Go figure!) A whole crowd of people were there watching her go crazy on me but because my orginal question was in a normal low voice, they had no idea (apart from one other woman who had been standing next to me at the time) what I had said. I realised the danger in this situation. I started pretending to read the bus timetables at the stop. When she finished her ranting I asked her what part of me saying, “Excuse me. Do you know where the 47 stops?” could be regarded as perverse and evidence I was a dickhead? People around me started to laugh at her and she lost it again. This time I read a poster on the bus stop wall until she stopped. Just as my bus came I said to her, “Have you had your mental illness treated?” Everyone laughed, she blushed, I got on the bus and we drove away, leaving her at the stop with about seven people laughing at her as she raved again.
Pratice turn the tide. It becomes a great past time. Above all, DON’T ENGAGE HER AT HER LEVEL AND ACCORDING TO HER RULES. MAKE YOUR OWN.
Wow Vijay. Sorry to learn of your unfortunate encounter. She obviously hated men for some reason and took it out on you as she probably does every day on that same mode of transport.She probably does it for a living – suing men ! Vijay, as hard as it is, she WILL get her overdue KARMA. You may not see it directly but she and her ILK will, no doubt about that. No doubt she was an American !!
That is a terrible story to hear. I see your name’s ‘Vijay’, so this incident was PROBABLY in India (right? Unless you’ve emigrated.) The toxic women are certainly coming up here. The way they expect to be able hit a man whenever they like because they feel ‘offended’ or ‘upset’ when a man doesn’t do what she wants him to do, for instance, is sickening.
If only we had no laws against whacking bullies or arrest policies for them too (just saying, like they have domestic violence laws against men to stop them ‘bullying’), that bitch would’ve been hard-pressed to try it again on anyone else. Ever.
I refused to date a female. She explicitly threatened me in writing (in an email) for refusing to date her. Then when I continued to refuse her, she falsely accused me of sexual harassment.
I had twice complained about her to my supervisor, and about other amorous females but was told to put up with it. So what did she do when this happened?
She immediately instructed me to apologise to the woman I refused to date but repeatedly refused to even tell me what I had been accused of.
My accuser eventually withdrew her complaint when my employer informed her that I was gay, and then she confessed in writing to having made it all up.
Nevertheless, my employer refused to take her confession into consideration and instead went on to find me guilty of sexual harassment on the basis of a written confession they claim I made in a particular document – except that document contains no confession. And they’ve never been able to produce one that does.
I later learned that my accuser had, in her capacity as a federal govt employee, made repeated unlawful access to my personal files to find out where I live etc. Despite this being investigated and despite it being a criminal offence, they took no action against her.
She later went on to fake a series of death and rape threat emails and claimed that I sent them to her. She created a new hotmail account using my name and sent them to herself.
First she tried to take out a Domestic Violence Order against me, claiming that we had dated. Obviously we never had.
Then she dropped that and applied for an Apprehended Violence Order against me. Despite all of the inconsistencies in her many stories and despite her ludicrous claim that she received these emails and then immediately deleted them, she was granted the AVO.
She also tried to have the police arrest me for stalking. But she slipped up when she changed her story again and decided to claim that she had all of her emails forwarded through some weird intermediary service and could now produce the emails complete with headers.
Not only was this new version of the emails full of typos – i.e. the content of the emails was not identical to the previous versions she’d given to police – but these faked email headers had an identical message ID for every single email.
Anyone who knows anything about emails knows that that’s impossible. Every (real) email ID is unique.
So the police got an ISP trace on these emails and traced everything back to her and got her to confess to having made them all up.
But they didn’t prosecute her – despite her being on probation for attempting to strangle her ex-boyfriend – so in other court hearings she continued to claim that I had sent her these emails – even after the police files (including her confession) were introduced into evidence.
To add insult to injury, my employer decided to give me a malicious reference and it took several years of struggling to find work to learn this.
I only did when after a few months of working in one position, the HR manager took me aside and told me to remove a particular referee from my CV. I was told that she was saying incredibly bizarre things about that didn’t gel with what all of my referees said, and when applying for this position they’d specifically asked me to provide extra referees for this reason.
Meanwhile, my career was ended and I’ve been kept below the poverty line ever since and why?
Because I – a gay man – refused to date a woman.
Fuck feminist and fuck the cops, that falsely arrest their own gender for the sake of them.
My advice to men:
Quit employing women unless it’s necessary affirmative action. When man does shit in a job, he can get fired easily that’s why they do better. But when a women does shit, a male boss can get falsely accused of discrimination so he can’t fire her.
Dude, I understand your plight believe me ! I am going through it now. Please don’t say “fuck the cops” ! It’s not the Cops, it’s the feminist system at work. If I said in here what I’d like to say and do, I’d be up the creek. It’s not the Cops but rather it’s the judicial system. So I say fuck the judicial system ! and then ignore women as innanimate objects much like you think of door knobs or refrigerator handles. They are all in the same category and not to be considered wither positive or negative…..they are neutral affect.
I was a high flier in my department. Really enthusiastic and happy about my job. Due for promotion after 5 years of dedicated service. Then a Polish woman started work as a cleaner – but she was quite ambitious for a carrer job in the company. I got chatting to her and we made a date to go out together.
A week later, in the office, I met her and we chatted, then at the end of the conversation I leaned slightly towards her to kiss her on the cheek. But she moved away and walked off without saying a word.
30 minutes later I was approached by security. They said that an allegation of sexual assault had been brought against me. I was immediately suspended and denied access to any company building.
I had to go to the police station to be interviewed by the police, and then human resources started their own investigation.
I felt like I had been mutilated viciously by her false allegations. I was turned from their best employee into a dumb cripple who didn’t even have the right to defend himself. It was a horrible experience.
6 months later I was still suspended without any pay.
Finally I lost my job.
It is all pretty sick situation. False accusers supported by Human Resources and police, and then these false allegations used for political and economic gain by competitive colleagues.
I swear that I will commit my time and energy to supporting any movement that gets the law changed regarding this situation, so that the rights of men can be defended and false allegations disallowed as a reason for dismissal.
Whatsmore, I’d like to see proper compensation for unfounded allegations. Men loose their reputation, their job, their career and their family simply by a woman making up a false story.
I was recently accused, yesterday, as police showed up at my door to ask me to attend a videotaped interview as there is an investigation in progress. Supposedly a friends sister, last year, who I allowed to stay in my house along with the friend and her other sister has accused me of something of which they were unable to discuss with me. The two officers asked me to come down to the police station to make a videotaped interview to clear up the situation.
When I phoned the one officer back later that evening to ask what a videotaped interview was I also asked him what unit he was in. He stated he was in the sex crimes unit. It appears I have been allegedly accused of some sort of sexual abuse. However when I told the officer I was gay he was surprised as no one had yet mentioned this. I am not sure what this may mean other than they have talked with other people as well as the accusor (?).
If you have not been formally charged and there is this claim, what is the best route to take? Should an individual go to the videotaped interview to tell their side? Talked briefly with a lawyer with some advice and he stated NOT to do so, as cops are only interested in cohercing information out of you to build their case against you; they are not your friends; do not count on them looking after your best interest or finding the truth; just her truth. If they had enough evidence they would have charged you. The officer stated a lawyer is not able to be present during the interview; the lawyer is stating they are able to be. Who the hell is telling the truth? And how exactly is a gay man being accused of sexual violating a woman? How can a man possibly prove this false if it is he said/she said? Or further to, what happens to the woman for these false allegations?….at a total loss for understanding this ~ opening up your home to someone you really had nothing to do with the whole time they were in your home? Also the police state they do not have to tell me what she said or what is actually being brought against me. They can tell me as little or as much information as they feel like during the interview. Totally confused! ADVICE???
Thanks.
Sorry for your situation. Can’t help with details, I don’t even know what country you’re in. Regardless, you have to protect yourself with more legal advice and make sure it’s competent. In the UK, you have the right to the presence of a lawyer during any interview process.
i was falsely accuse of molesting my daughter, because my wife wanted me out of the picture so she could sleep around with whoever she wanted, and there was no way i could get custody or visitation. i spent months in prison trying to prove my innocent, and the only way i could do this was to have my daughter get a medical examine more a less a pap smear for a 3 yr old, i didnt want to , but that was the only way I had no choice, the medical examine came back negiative on everything.But apparently my wife and othr coached her in what to say she finally told the court that telling the truth was a bad thing, because the age of the child i got my case dismissed without prejudice which i have tried to get expunged and the commonwealth will not grant the expungement nor will they When a man goes to prison for these crimes he is often beat by guards or raped by other inmates, of corse none of this is ever brought to light. After 5 years of being dismissed I have finally given up on my kids, I had to just to get on with my life, I met another great girl and we have a baby girl and i have fears even now changing diapers giving baths without my wife being in the same room. But I decided to quit pursing for visitation with the other kids because if she accused me once she would accuse me again then I wouldnt be able to be a dad to my new baby, it broke my heart and its not a day that dont go by thaat i dont thaink about them but because there mom is a monster i had to do this So the next time your hear of a sexual abuse case please dont automatically think they r guilty there r more innocent people in jail then u think
very sad…that is lesson for me too…thanks God its not happened with me…i still take my 2 years old daughter for visitation and my witch ex wife start telling me she will accuse me of sexual molestetion of my child…i deside stop visitation and go to comlain to family court…what you think,it will help ? other case i have forget and leave my daughter ? i very love her…she is copy of me…i am 41 y.o. and this is my only child…please HELP with advices…sorry for my english. it’s not my first language…thanks to everybody
I have promoted the idea of a registry for women who lie about rape and spousal abuse but that doesn’t solve the problem. The reason for this is that most people would not have access to the registry because the government determines who gets to see it. Perhaps another solution would be to mark the offender’s forehead with the letter ‘A’ or the letter ‘R’ as was done before. After all, the names of innocent men appear in the paper while the names of guilty women nearly always do not.
Not a bad idea. I’m sick and tired of my former daughter in law accusing my son. He has to prove innoncense… She only has to say it. She’s been proven to be lieing before and nothing was done. NOTHING. She walked right out of the court free again. WRONG> I’d like to see a big ol “T” tatooed on her forhead. T for TRAMP. All thru the marriage and until today she’s had man after man, She’s not a whore, too stupid to get paid for sex. Lies about her husband choking, hitting her… The child drew pictures of “mama hurting daddy” and the social worker discounted it… evidently cause that don’t happen. The tramp evicted her own little children… and a yr later wants them back… and finally got them… STUPID judge…
women who lie need to be punished and yes…maybe be on some list…to warn other men…
this is the second time this tramp has done this to a man
Us men are missing the point:
A woman is an “emotional sponge” she “soaks up” the emotions of the environment that she is in. Put a woman in a toxic environment and the woman becomes toxic. Put her in a environment full of romance and love stories and that same woman becomes romantic and loving. Women are surrounded day and night with stories where “the man did it” and “men are bad” and women soak up these stories like a sponge. After 30 years of feminism it should be clear that society (that is the main stream media) is not going to change. Us men need to take more responsibility for our females and remove our wives and daughters from this poisonous environment. Yes i am talking back to nature (a village deep in africa perhaps – really!) Otherwise it is just a matter of time before the toxic environment turns our once loving woman toxic: i have been the victim of a toxic woman i lost my house, children etc etc, but i do not blame the ex i blame myself for allowing her to live in a poisoned environment
Are we better off today with mandatory arrest orders against men or should we punish those who would deny others their right to be free? There is something good about civil disobedience and moral opposition to an unjust state.
huh ???? Don’t understand a word of your statement. Please don’t talk in riddles. Say what you mean and mean what you say !
The worst case that I have ever seen occurred in Cary, NC. A young man was accused of murdering his wife and sentenced to life without parole. It was apparent that she died faking abuse. The police destroyed tire tracks and footprints near her body because they didn’t match his. They also destroyed the records on her cell phones, destroyed computer files, and implanted a map on his computer in the area of her body. The time date stamps were bogus according to a defense expert who the judge would not allow to testify in front of the jury because the prosecution claimed they could not get a rebuttal witness. The police also ignored 16 eye witnesses who saw his wife alive long after the police say that she died. A trained police dog searched the home and cars and found evidence of urine, feces, vomit, or death. The dog indicated that no death had occurred in the home and no body had been in the trunk of the car as police claimed. The female police chief is active with a feminist group that encourages women to claim abuse. She made false statements about him to the media immediately after his wife disappeared. The chief knew of his wife’s promiscuity, out of control spending, and alcohol use. The night before his wife disappeared, he left a neighborhood party at 8PM to put his children to bed and read bedtime stories. His wife continued drinking until 12:30 AM and then walked home alone. The day before, she had bought two bottles of wine for the party but ignored the fact that there was no milk for the children. He was a great father and good husband. The feminist police chief and her friends tore him up to the media while ignoring the woman’s promiscuity, heavy alcohol use, and starting public fights. The police chief, Patricia Bazemore showed up in court with the wife’s family to take his children long before he was charged. Cary, North Carolina has a problem with feminist divorce lawyers, abuse faking women, active feminist groups, and a female police chief who wants domestic abuse viewed only one way. We all hope that the man, Brad Cooper, will win his appeal. Many are calling it the worst case of police abuse that they have ever seen. So much evidence that would have lead to his acquittal was intentionally destroyed by the Cary police who were under the command of the female activist police chief. The wife died using the choking game to fake abuse. Her hyoid bone fractured and she suffocated.
The state creates mandatory arrest laws that imprison men and allow guilty women to go free. The state also refuses the right of men to use indisputable evidence to support his innocence and prove her guilt. The shield laws allow women and newspapers to vilify men while preventing witnesses to come forward on his behalf. False allegations are aimed at extorting property and money from men. Recently some women refused DNA testing because the State said she had the right to avoid self incrimination. They were right but they then proceeded against her victim because that was the law. That pretty much explains it. This is why I support the Equal Rights Amendment.
I created the Abused Men’s Area about twelve years ago as it related to my own experiences. Then I placed some pamphlets in the public library (with permission of the authorities) and nearly every self-righteous wannabe pseudo feminist figuratively crawled out of the woodwork. The problem was that the library had acquired some books that told women how to falsely claim abuse. Simply dial 911, scream, and through the phone through the window. So I wrote an essay called Banned from the Library. About the same time, some women in Colorado decided to display antimale pornography in the Boulder County library and that raised a ruckus. That proved that some women are not suitable for raising children and that lead to an essay on Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). After that, my website grew and included topics on premenstrual dysphoric disorder and increasing the daily intake of Vitamin D from 400 units to more than 4000 units of Vitamin D3. Currently there are more than 50 topics and perhaps others would want to read about them.
Edward, where is this abused men’s area? I live in Colorado and would like to see some of your literature.
My son is going thru a mess right now. They are seperated nearly a yr. She lied and got a court order of protection, no proof, just her word and he had a protective order smacked on him. HE has been arrested since, ON HER WORD, with NO PROOF, He had to prove his innocense.. and was able to . NO Punishment for her lying, she walks, SHE EVICTED HER OWN 2 little children, one handicaped… and later wanted them. she didn’t want the handicapp one cause he’s hard to “deal with”… Finally thru appeals she got them back, They are miserable. The yr she didn’t have them, she paid no support and KEPT most of the Handicapp childs SSI support. It’s awful that a woman only has to say it and she’s believed.
Do you still feel the same way about supporting anyone trying to set up a campaign to address this situation, especially the Sexual Offences & Public order act para 32 & 33? If so, please contact me. My son and I know of 3 other’s who have been falsely acused of rape and believe it to be purely for compensation.
Violence and abuse take place in relationships, and they are awful for the victims. I also know false accusations take place. I was served with divorce papers which stated I abused, stalked, threatened, and interfered with my wife. I lost the ability to renew my top secret security clearance, lost friends and family, had to check in for psychological care, was suicidal and have suffered an enormous amount of long lasting psychological issues due to these false allegations.
Last week in a sworn deposition, my wife said none of these things ever occurred. While I was initially happy she was truthful, I soon became outraged when I found out her acts would go unpunished. The level of distress/stress and complete embarrassment I have suffered cannot be adequately articulated. I find it outrageous the legal system does little or nothing to punish women or men who make false allegations, “just so I don’t have to talk to her/him anymore.” Very unfair and downright sociopathic.
My boyfriends ex wife 6 years ago accused him of sexual assault against his step daughter who was 15 at that time….
He wanted a divorce because after ten years of the wife’s mental, emotional, physical, and financial abuse, and her cheating on him, enough was enough…
He asked for a divorce, and moved out..
A few months later, he was arrested on sexual assault.
For 6 years he couldn’t see his two children without a chaperon (who is the ex wife), he can’t get work because his background check states “pending” for sexual assualt, can’t get a place of his own cause no one will hire him…
Now the court is just now considering putting him on probation and making him register for sex offender…
He’s never had a record until these false accusations…
The ex wife was a probation officer, lost her job when she was caught stealing checks, was in jail for 6 months, arrested for DWI’s, and always had child protective services going to her house…. She’s crazy, a sociopath, and the kids will end up with some sort of mental issues… Her record shows all the bad things she’s done, and cop calls to her house cause her and her older daughter (step daughter to by boyfriend) call the cops on each other cause their fighting and hitting each other…
All this mental illness drama, and it’s my boyfriend who is the charged one….
He’s the victim of a sociopath… And San Antonio courts are letting her get away with this…
Her name is marissa delgado age 44 and she ruined her ex husband, the father of her two children.. The children will never have their father…
All because he wanted a divorce, he wanted peace, he wanted no more drama from the wife… Even told her to keep everything, and the kids… He just wanted visitation with the kids…. Simple… She would of had over 1,000 in child support…
But because he can’t find work he has to be on unemployment. So she only gets about 200-300 dollars in child support… She’s struggling cause she doesn’t work cause she ruined her background check too…
And she has a masters degree… And lives in a all bills paid run down apartment…
Could of had it made, but this sociopath ruined everything for her family….
Thank you for this thought provoking and well written message. What can we do about the realities of false accusations and how the justice system seems to pander to and perpetuate them?
After a lengthy and horrid custody battle my brother finally won partial custody of his now 4 year son. Upon the first the overnight weekend with him, his estranged wife charged him with spousal abuse. Claiming he punched her in the eye. Of course this was a total lie, they have have not lived together for 3 years and were married for 10 years prior with no mention of even a temper let alone violence. She simply does not want to share custody and does not want thier son to have any affection for his father. The irony is my brother is a gentle soul who treated her like a queen and never would raise a hand to anyone. He is a highly educated, caring man who simply loves his son and wants to support him through his life. Now he must defend himself in criminal court while he attempts to hang on to any contact with his son. Further, his medical license could be jeapordized. This woman is not fit to watch a dog, let alone raise a child. It is sick that societies the world over have allowed this sub culture that uses our justice systems to victimize innocent men and in the end harm children. These mothers are have far deeper rage and hate for their victims then they do love for their own children. They are perpetrators of evil.
If there are any of u living in the UK, please get in touch because after 2 years of this article being written, nothing has changed! We need to act now and try to raise awareness of these issues. More diligent investigations need to be conducted and CPS more diligent in checking cases prior to court for feasibilty of evidence let alone truth of it. In my son’s case he was accused of doing something in a flat he didn’t even have until years later – the police never even checked the commencement of his tenancy!! I need your help to start campaigning against these miscarriages of justice against innocent men and from these poisonous women – especially those that do it purely for compensation or revenge – my son is his accusers second victim which was witheld from the court during the trial!!
I bumped onto this video in Youtube.I think it is a perfect example of equality & everyone will like it:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UwXVwdtAV-c
I have a very good friend who was accused of raping, kidnapping, and assaulting a female who he knew for 15 years. He is a successful man who is innocent; however, she is obsessed and attempting to take EVERYTHING he has. I as well as several of his friends male and female are furious about this because detectives are trying to base the fact he has explicit photos of women on his phone that he is capable of doing such, which is NOT fair! Why can women’s past not be used against her when a man past can be. Suggestions? Help? Legal Advocacy? Advice? Where do you start?
I have a small business in CA. I have a very close family like relationship with my employees. I had a female employee that was not a good employee and would call in sick an hour before her shift and get shifts covered all the time. One time she said she was sick for the past 3 days and called to tell me she had hoped she was going to feel better but she wasn’t going to make it to her shift that started in one hour. I told her I was taking her off the schedule and wanted her to come and speak to management about her performance. She never showed to the meeting and instead got an attorney and has filed a lawsuit claiming sexual harassment. she says it occurred 6 months ago, however there was no harassment. from the time she claimed the indecent happened over the next 6 months her texts to call in sick all started with “hey babe im sick and cant make it in tonight” 20 plus times she used babe and hun with all her friendly communications with her supervisor. And now she is claiming she was sexually harassed and intimidated over this 6 month by the person she was sending such messages to. Now she is mad that she was betting a talking to and possibly being let go so she got a slimy lawyer. I have found that it will put my business under just trying to defend myself. Over 100k just to get to trial. I Cant believe that some one can be so evil for personal gain. Just trying to get money at the expense of many peoples lively hood. It will cost over 100k in lawyer fees for me to even get to a trial to present the evidence that will clearly show no harassment was happening. So I am forced to try and just give her and her attorney 30k to make her go away, not even being able to have anybody even hear my case. Makes me sick that there is real harassment happening, but a false claim can be made and I just have to plead to take the 30k instead of being able to prove my innocence. This needs to change or small business will not be able to survive.
Hi,
Most modern people reject God & His teachings i.e., Matthew chapter 5, 6, 7.
So we are back in the Jungle.
There is no such thing as RAPE in the Jungle.
But women want it both ways! They want to act like animals on heat, but demand the Laws of God to protect them, when the men start acting like animals.
MOST RAPE CASES ARE ABOUT CONTROL.
WHEN THE WOMAN IS IN CONTROL, SHE WILL HAVE SEX WITH ANIMALS; WITH 3 MEN AT A TIME.
SHE WILL DO WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO.
WOMEN MAKE HITLER LOOK LIKE A BOY SCOUT!
THE AMERICAN HOLOCAUST
What is the total number of legal abortions since 1973?
Since the legalization of abortion in 1973, there have been approximately 50 million abortions performed in the United States.
Source: Guttmacher Institute, 2011, August. Facts on Induced Abortion in the United States.
There goes the Neighborhood; In the last Ten years two women have used the Harassment tag to try and destroy my career and life…the last time, just a month ago.I’ve tried to get help from agencies, but was told that when I resigned, I let the Company off scot-free. I have respected and loved women all of my fifty years, but some of them are toxic to the bone. Freedoms in America are being abused by people out to get people just because they can..or someone told them they can.I’m innocent in both cases, but don’t tell that to the Company…My a– is always grass to them. The system needs to change, or soon retaliation may become a cry for help from people victimized by these injustices. I hope it doesn’t come to that…I hope we can live together, work together, and act civilized.
i have been figthing with my x ,in court to see my 7 year old son .but she has made .false alligation against me .now i can not see my son until these have been proven or un proven .in my heart i know that they are false.after reading the article above i have a bit more clear understaing .but it is wrong , just because she said so ??????
The question i have is what is sexual harrassment in the work place? if I look at a coworker with attraction… i talk to her to try to get to know her, respectfully… is that harassment? Is giving out normal (I like you) signals and trying to get to know someone harassment??
Say, I join a company and I look across and notice a girl I’m attracted to. I look at her a few times from afar, I talk to her respectfully and friendly… is that justification for her telling my coworkers that I am making advances towards her or that she is getting unwanted attention from me… because that would seriously damage my working enviroment and my reputation… and that is what I believe she has done. I’m suddenly getting major evils from previously friendly coworkers and she is acting weird too… as if I’ve done something wrong.
Do you think its my fault, because I’m working in at professional office environment I should not be showing any signs of physical attraction to any other members of staff??
I dont think she is out to get me… atleast I dont think so, but she’s certainly doing a lot of damage all the same. Maybe she’s had trouble in the past… and she’s expecting it from me. I dont know.
My friend for over 20 years was arrested and charged of indecent assault, grooming, forcing oral sex.
The complainant is a 17 year old firecracker, drugs, drink, fighting and partying 24/7.
My friend is a lovely man, and this girl is the daughter of one of his close friends, who is a gambler, an alcoholic and a loser. many times during the girls life my friend was asked to collect her, take her to school, to the doctors, even dress and bathe her, all completely innocent.
However, this girl has turned 16, and was forever ringing my friend begging money for ‘food’ and begging lifts to drug dealers etc.
It got too much for my dear friend, and he refused.
The young girl was seriously drunk, and rang the police and made some accusation of sexual indecency.
From that moment on my friends life was ruined. He was charged, with no witnesses, apart form the girls best friend, and the girls own statement.
Everyone in my area knows my friend is totally innocent, indeed 15 people turned up at crown court for his trial to support him and try to show common sense.
To cut a long story short, the case was immediately sent for jury trial. My friend owns his house, and has worked 18 hrs a day for the past 50 years. He is due to retire next year. He has had to remortgage the house to pay his legal bills, he was not able to claim legal aid. Always being told not to worry, he would get every penny back when he was found not guilty.
So, the case goes for 3 day jury trial. After 3 days jury was sent out for verdict. Several times later the foreman of the jury said they could not reach a majority verdict, and finally the judge decided it was a mistrial, as no verdict could be reached. -Hung Jury
So, my friend left court, returned the following week to find that CPS has made the case for 6 months time.
My friend has lost everything, has lost his life, his home his money and indeed his future years. It is guilty till proven innocent, how the hell can this be fair.
Noone in our town believes the girl, she is renown for selling sex, and selling hand jobs for drugs and so on.
How can this be fair?? What can my friend do, he has told the truth every word, and the jury coudlnt find him guilty, but still, he has lost everything.
He has at no stage been believed even though the prosecution have to prove guilt, not the defendant having to prove innocence. The court could NOT prove guilt, it was a hung jury.
The laws in this land are wrong, totally and utterly wrong. Whilst I fully support the fact the girl made these accusations, all us his friends can go on is a life time of friendship, he is loved by a great deal of people, old and young, and all he has ever done is try to help people, even people he only met recently.
I agree there has to be justice, and there is always the chance these horrendous things were done, and how hard it is on the girl to face court and reliving what she puports to be the truth. But, innocence till proven guilty, prove guilt, but….
someone cries rape and claims she holds strong DNA evidence of the incidence then police arrests you in the suspicion of rape and the magistrate denies you the bail and ultimately sent to the prison where you feel being socially, psychologically raped every moment you live. you wait for your trial for a year and the finally acquitted from the court. this is my story. since this experience i have difficulties in trusting females, no matter who they are. every time i enter the uk i am pulled out and being questioned by the immigration, police and the anti terrorist police. now i started to realized there is no land for me where i can be happy the way i use to be before i got involved in this incidence. i need advice from peoples who have gone through the same experience in their life
I too was arrested and served restraining order forbidding contact with my little girl because my ex claims my daughter is afrai of me.my ex accuses me of giving her bruises on her arms and neck ! the Grandmother (her Mom) testified in court to seeing bruises. I asked her f she took pictures , she said she diddnt havecamera. I reminded her that both her and the “victim” both have cameras in there phone and do know how to use them. hey diddnt know what to say and the Judge said nothing! We need to march on court house properties toraise awarenes with signs and TV news and Newspapers will cover it.
Thank the Lord for little mercies! Be grateful you’re not standing accused in India. Although we’re seeing some (minor) changes in Domestic Violence laws (actually, laws on “Violence Against Women”), they are still “non-bailable” offenses ,and there still exists a real likelihood of you (the husband) as well as your “aggrieved” wife’s in-laws being dragged into jail for “mistreatment”, “cruelty”, “abuse”, whatever ….
But one of the positive aspects of the Indian Criminal (in)Justice System is, you’re always given the option of bribing your way out – whether guilty or not! You either bribe the police (who could doctor a weak investigatory report and/or talk the alleged victim into the practical benefits of compromising), or you could bribe the alleged victim into formally withdrawing her/his allegations or offering lopsided testimony on the stand. Either way, the cops get their “cut”.
The process of reaching a lawful compromise is called Compounding. When an offense is compounded, it is equivalent to an acquittal. (See Criminal Code CrPC §320 et seq).
Where there might be some showing of mitigating/aggravating evidence in Domestic Violence/Dowry trials and arguments offered on admissibility, etc., in Rape trials, absent any corroborating evidence (forensic or otherwise), the alleged perpetrator could be convicted solely upon the testimony of the prosecutrix if she “seems credible” since “no woman of honor would subject herself to public humiliation in open court if the allegation was untrue” (words to that effect)!!
Bear in mind these gender biased “laws” are the nation’s “cottage industry”: one heck of a quick way to make some (often big) bucks or fornicate with some unfortunate bastard’s life. Our enterprising police are always lurking around for just such opportunities.
Any woman can cry “Rape” if there’s money to be made or if she’s on a mission of castigation (castration?). I happen to know of a renowned physician who was with his wife in the living room when their servant maid made her grand entrance, tore her clothes, and yelled for help ‘cos both the doc and his wife were allegedly raping her. Then, there’s the case of my friend’s father (now deceased), a sitting judge at the time, whose maid had him falsely arrested for rape. He got his job back (but I don’t think he tried any Rape trials after his little misadventure!!). Another friend’s father, a senior member of the Indian Administrative Service, now deceased, was suffering from cancer. That didn’t stop his in-home care nurse from leveling charges of Rape.
Such horror stories never stop but become increasingly more creative. Bottom line is, there are “Women”; then, there are “Bitches”. It’s the latter that give the rightful Women’s Rights Movement and the concept of Feminism a bad name.
“A reputation once broken may possibly be repaired, but the world will always keep their eyes on the spot where the crack was.” – Joseph Hall
I was falsely accused of rape four years ago, by a former housemate of 2 months, who told the court that she had lived with me for EIGHT YEARS in an abusive relationship. I’d actually lived at my address with my partner for 25 years! This woman’s claim was retaliation for a blog that I and others created, warning the public about her in relation to a long history of rent scam and theft activity that we discovered after she scammed our landlord and fellow tenants out of thousands of dollars.
Miss “rape victim” went to a local domestic violence support group, gave them her lies, and without bothering to verify anything, they gave her a free lawyer, free legal assistance, a place to stay, etc. I was served with a restraining order and went to court. The judge did vacate the order, but I now have a record of the rape claim on file.
Someone claiming to have lived at the same address for eight years, in a relationship, should be able to provide proof of residency, via copies of the lease, employment and tax records, etc. The group that took this loser’s case asked for no proof whatsoever. It was her word against mine. Groups that give this kind of “no proof required” support to alleged rape victims should be subject to legal repercussions when they CREATE victims in the falsely accused.